We all have that annoying friend, who, when someone is driving us crazy, asks us, “what can you learn from the person who’s driving you crazy?” Brace yourself: I am that annoying friend. It’s always easier to conclude that our problems are external to us. If someone grates on our nerves, it’s because there is something wrong with THEM. But what happens when we play out that “they-are-the-problem” belief? For example, a colleague always complains to you. You can’t stand it, so

I want to introduce to you a principle for strong adulting that I’m calling "Optimal Chaos". The idea is this: the best way to grow is to place yourself at the edge of chaos. In other words, if you avoid chaos altogether, you remain stagnant, and if you dive head first into extreme chaos, life can unravel very quickly. This may sound obvious, but even so, failing to calibrate chaos is a common cause of suffering for many inhabitants of Adultland. Let's dig a little deeper int

​I co-founded Bluetree Network in 2012, and due to a combination of luck, incredible colleagues, and just enough intelligence to squeak by, the company grew like gangbusters. Only four years later, however, I stepped away from a comfortable leadership position at an awesome company to pursue coaching. Why would I do that? Allow me to explain... My youth was, in many ways, joyous...but there was also a dark side. I was a fearful little boy (the possible reasons for which can b